讲好一个故事的10种方法

Martin

　　10 Ways to Tell a Great Story

　　讲好一个故事的10种方法

　　Building attraction is NOT about approaching a woman, saying a few lines and instantly seducing her.

　　建立吸引力并不是靠近一个女人,说—些话并立刻诱惑她。

　　Instead it’s about knowing how to demonstrate higher value then using it to make girls attracted to you.

　　相反,建立吸引力是要知道如何展现高价值然后运用高价值让女人被你吸引。

　　That’s why it’s important to understand WHAT makes women attracted to guys and HOW use this information to instantly build sexual chemistry with a girl you’ve just met.

　　正因为如此,所以了解男人有什么能够吸引女人并以此让与你邂逅的女孩来电是非常重要的。

　　The good news is there is a great technique you can use to show ALL your positive qualities WITHOUT a woman noticing what you’re doing.

　　幸运的是,有—种技巧可以让你展现你所有的优势,却没有一个女人注意到你在施展技俩。

　　It can be done by telling a good STORY.

　　这个方法就是:讲好一个故事。

　　Out of all your PUA routines, the stories you use can be AS important as your openers.

　　除所有PUA法则以外,你讲的故事跟开场白—样重要。

　　If you know the RIGHT way to tell them, you’ll have an unfair advantage over other guys.

　　如果你方法正确,你就能在男人中脱颖而出。

　　So what makes a good story?

　　那么,怎么样才能讲好一个故事呢?

　　Well a quality story has many elements.

　　一个好故事包含很多方面。

　　Unlike the stories you tell your friends and family, you MUST concentrate on specific things in order to demonstrate high status.

　　与你平时给朋友和家人讲的故事不同,你必须强调—些闪光点来展现你的高价值。That’s why I’ve decided to list my 10 part “foolproof” system for creating stories that’ll attract women.

　　所以我决定列出一个吸引女人的讲故事系统,这个系统非常简单,它包含10个部分。Element #1- Keep it simple stupid

　　第一:要简单易懂

　　When you tell stories, you must stick to the old adage- K.I.S.S. (Keep it simple stupid)

　　你讲故事的时候,你必须遵守KISS(简单易懂)的原则。

　　The usual venues for meeting women can be loud and crowded.

　　遇到女人的地方通常是人多嘈杂的。

　　Furthermore, girls in bars/clubs have short attention spans.

　　而且,酒吧/俱乐部里的女人的注意力通常不集中。

　　All of these factors combine to create an environment that makes it hard to tell a story.

　　所有这些因素综合起来,导致在这样的环境中很难讲好一个故事。

　　So the first thing to know about a story is to keep it short and to the point. (No longer then 1-2 minutes.)

　　所以,你首先必须清楚的是,故事要短而且要开门见山(不要超过1~2分钟)

　　If it’s longer than a few minutes, then you have to edit it and ONLY keep the parts that are important.

　　如果故事比较长,你就得先作删减,以保留最重要的部分。

　　Element #2- Use good material

　　第二,要用好的素材

　　The next element is easy.

　　第二点很简单。

　　You have to make sure you use material which can be interesting to most women. (In other words, don’t tell anything that’ll offend or bore anybody)

　　你得确认你讲的内容能够引起大部分女人的兴趣。(也就是说,不要讲那些令人反感或枯燥无味的东西)

　　Specifically, girls like hear about drama, adventure and anything humor humorous.

　　特别值得一提的是,女人喜欢听戏剧化的、冒险的和幽默的故事。

　　So do yourself a favor and concentrate your stories on these specific topics.

　　所以你要把你的故事集中在这些特别的话题上。

　　Element #3- Demonstrate higher status

　　第三，要展现高价值

　　As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, a story should be told in a way which demonstrates YOUR high status.

　　我在本文的开头已经说过，你要用能够展现你高价值的方式来讲故事。

　　Any material you use has to briefly touch on the SPECIFIC qualities that women love about guys.

　　所有你用的素材必须主要表明你具有女人喜欢的男人品质。

　　For instance, here are some qualities you should focus on:

　　比如，这些品质是你必须重点描述的：

　　? Preselected by women

　　被女人预选

　　? Leadership within your peer group

　　在你团队中的领导力

　　? An ability to take action

　　行动力

　　? Bravery in tough situations

　　处理棘手问题的勇气

　　? An adventurous and fun lifestyle

　　冒险刺激的生活方式

　　? Loyalty to your friends

　　对朋友忠诚

　　Element #4- Be indirect NOT direct

　　第四，间接而非直接

　　Now when I mention how it’s important to demonstrate high status in your story, I don’t mean you should start bragging about yourself.

　　我提到,讲故事的时候要展现高价值,这非常重要，但我并不是要你吹牛。

　　Instead you should use your storytelling to INDIRECTLY mention your positive qualities.

　　相反，你用通过讲故事的方式间接地提到你的高价值。

　　The best way to do this is to use language that vaguely demonstrates your positive qualities.

　　要做到这一点最好的方法就是，通过语言来暗示你的高价值。

　　For instance, let’s pretend that you want to demonstrate that you’re “pre-selected” by attractive women.

　　举个例子来说，我们假设你想证明你被美女“预选”，

　　You would NOT want to say something like:

　　你不能这样说：

　　“I have an ex-girlfriend who is model. In fact, I date LOTS of models. Anyway, I was hanging out with her at a photo shoot one day…”

　　我的前女友是个模特，事实上，我跟很多的模特有约会。有—天我还跟她在—起拍照。

　　Instead you want to something like this

　　你要这样说：

　　“So get this, the other day I was hanging out with my ex at her photo shoot, when craziest thing happened…”

　　那一天我跟我前女友在一起拍照的时候，发生了一件最疯狂的事情……

　　As you can see both statements say the same thing.

　　你可以看到这两种说法其实是在说同—件事。

　　But the later reveals that you often hang out AND date attractive women in a way that does NOT appear to be bragging.

　　但是后面一种说法暗示你经常跟美女在一起约会,人们却不觉得你是在吹牛。

　　Element #5- Hook them in

　　第五,吊她们的胃口

　　With every story, there will be ONE element that stands out from the other facts.

　　故事里的情节都是承上启下的。

　　In short, this will be part that HOOKS the listener in.

　　简而言之,这就是吊听众胃口的地方。

　　The hook should be a little nugget of information which is something out of the ordinary that people wouldn’t ordinarily hear during a conversation.

　　诱饵应该是—些零碎有用的信息,而这些信息是人们在平常的谈话中是听不到的。

　　When you’re telling the story, the hook should be a statement during the first few sentences that’ll attract her attention and make her wonder where you’re going to go with it.

　　当你在讲故事的时候,在开头的几句话中就要抛出诱饵,以吸引她的注意力,而且让她猜不到你下来要讲什么。

　　Element #6- The opening statement

　　第六,开头

　　Just like your opener, the first thing you say will set the WHOLE tone of the story.

　　就像开场白一样,你开口说的第一句话就定下了故事的整个基调。

　　When you first approach a group you should project fun and energy with your body language.

　　当你开始走向一个组合时,你应该用肢体语言来表现你的风趣和活力。

　　This also the case when you tell stories to a group.

　　你讲故事的时候也应该这样。

　　When you start a story, you must begin with a high level of energy and fun, THEN give a statement that is congruent to what you’re saying.

　　当你开始一个故事时,你的开头必须充满活力,让人感到很有趣,然后再对你说的话作适当的说明。

　　For instance, you start with something like:

　　比如,你可以这样开始:

　　“Holy crap, the weirdest thing happened to me yesterday…”

　　"天啊!昨天我碰到了一件不可思异的事情…"

　　Element #7- Create conversation threads

　　第七,理好谈话的思路

　　A good story can set up HOURS of conversation topics.

　　一个好故事能够引出长时间的聊天话题。

　　If told properly, it should reveal a lot of facts about your personality and background without sounding like you’re bragging.

　　如果故事讲得好的话,它会彰显你的个性和背景,而不让别人觉得你是在吹牛。

　　That’s why it’s important to be a little vague and mysterious about what you’re revealing.

　　所以你描述的时候要带有一些模糊和神秘感。

　　Instead of coming out and telling things about yourself, you should introduce certain topics in a way that’ll naturally arise some curiosity from your audience.

　　不要谈论你自己,你要用—种自然而然的方式来介绍特定的话题,引起听众的好奇心。

　　For instance, you could say statements like:

　　比如,你可以这样说:

　　? “So whenever I drive my car, I get the weirdest looks…” [Why is it weird looking]

　　"所以不论我什么时候开车,我总是看起来很奇怪…"(为什么奇怪)

　　? “Fortunately because of my job, I can do stuff at a moments notice…” [What type of job do you have]

　　幸运的是,因为我工作上的原因,我随时都可以露—手…"(你是做什么工作的)

　　? “Ever since my childhood, I’ve had this protective streak about women…” [What happened to make you this way]

　　"从我小时候开始,我就一直对女人怀有这种防卫机制…"(你怎么会变成这样的?)

　　Element #8- Learn to tell a story

　　第八,学习讲故事

　　In order to tell a good story, you should think of it as comedy routine.

　　为了讲好一个故事,你应该把故事看作一出喜剧。

　　Just think of your favorite comedians.

　　想想你喜欢的喜剧演员们,

　　They probably ALL get laughs not through WHAT they’re saying, but more about HOW they do it.

　　他们可能总是能蠃得笑声,这不在于他们讲的内容,而在于他们讲的方式。

　　To tell a good story, you have to learn how to pace and deliver the crucial elements.

　　为了讲好一个故事,你要学会层层推进。Often, it’s not about what you’re saying, it’s about how you deliver it.

　　经常的情况是,这不在于你讲什么,而在于你怎么讲。

　　Element #9- The payoff

　　第九,高潮

　　A good story will always have a payoff.

　　一个好故事总是有一个高潮。

　　This is basically a statement that is similar to a “punch line” or at least indicates a conclusion.

　　这主要是要引出—段类似画龙点睛的话,或者至少得出一个结论。

　　While you don’t have to ALWAYS go for a big laugh, the payoff should let the group know that you’re done with the story

　　你不必每次都让人捧腹大笑,高潮部分应该让人知道这个故事是怎么回事。

　　For instance, one of my favorite stories ends with:

　　比如,我最喜欢的故事结尾之一是这样的:

　　“And that’s why I’ll NEVER drink tequila during a pub crawl!” [Trust me, this particular story ALWAYS gets a good laugh]

　　那就是为什么我以后去酒店再也不喝龙舌兰酒的原因。(相信我,这个特别的故事总是能引起一阵大笑)

　　Element #10- Practice, practice, practice!

　　第十,练习,练习,再练习

　　You will NOT tell a good story if you haven’t perfected ALL the details.

　　如果你没有对所有的细节做好充分的准备,你就不能讲好—个故事。

　　That’s why it’s important to practice it till you know it cold!

　　所以,你要练习到滚瓜烂熟。

　　A great illustration of this element can be found in the classic movie- Reservoir Dogs.

　　这一点可以在电影《储备狗》里可以看到—个很好的例子。

　　In one scene, Mr. Orange practices telling a story that’ll be used when he’s talking to criminals.

　　在一个场景里,沃伦诸先生不断地练习讲一个将用于审问罪犯故事。

　　In a particular memorable scene, Mr. Blonde, spends hours on a rooftop practicing every little detail of the story.

　　在一个令人难忘的场景里,布隆德先生在屋顶上花了几个小时的时间来练习这个故事的每一个细节。

　　It was only AFTER he practiced did he try to use it on a real audience.

　　只有在经过练习之后他才会把它用在真正的听众身上。

　　Well there you have it…

　　Ten ways to tell the perfect story!

　　现在你有了…

　　10讲好一个故事的方法!

　　Remember that a good story contains many crucial elements.

　　要记得—个好的故事包含很多重要的因素。

　　As a result, it’s important to sit down and create ones that use all the things I discussed in this post.

　　因此,非常重要的是,坐下来,准备一些运用本文讨论的所有技巧的故事。

　　If used properly during the rapport and attraction building stage of your approach, you’ll be able to demonstrate high status in a very unique way.

　　如果你能够在建立和谐与吸引力的阶段正确地运用我这些技巧,你就能以一种特别的方式展示高价值。